Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Marriage and the Quad

Hello, my name is Jasper and I am a quad.  I have been married twice in my life.  My first marriage lasted 22 years.  So, I feel as though I know something about the matter.  But, I have never been married while being in a wheel chair.  I was wondering to myself, what would that be like.  I am sure all of the love, patience and all the other emotions are involved.  But, still I wonder what it would like.  It has to be something different.  I would imagine it would take sometime for me to get over the feeling of being inadequate.  For a man not being able to physically do things for his spouse.  It weighs heavy on his mind.  I believe as men, we are sort of trained as toddlers to be caring and nurturing towards our female counterparts.  When you are in a position where you can't physically touch your spouse or being able to protect her if need be somehow makes you feel a little less than a man.  So first, I believe for me I would have to get past that hurdle first.  Not being able to do physical things for your spouse is like when a woman looses all her hair or looses a breast to cancer.  It may not make a difference to her husband, but it is something that she has to mentally get past.   So, since this is something that I have never experienced for myself I would appreciate some feedback.

Thank you,
this is Jasper

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